In the ebb and flow of life, we often hear the saying, "God never gives us more than we can handle." This adage, while comforting, doesn't quite capture the tumultuous reality we sometimes face. It's not about whether we're given more than we can handle; it's about how we choose to face the challenges thrown our way. Today, I want to explore the resilience of the human spirit and how, in the face of seemingly insurmountable obstacles, we find our true strength and the capacity for growth.
The Myth
We've all been there—overwhelmed, underprepared, and facing the abyss of the unknown. The notion that we're never given more than we can handle is a well-intentioned one, suggesting a divine moderator overseeing our trials with a measuring cup of fate. Yet, life, in its unpredictable majesty, does not always adhere to this. Instead of finding solace in this saying, we might find ourselves questioning the very nature of our struggles. Why me? Why now?
The Blessing in Disguise
It's in these moments of questioning that growth begins. Each challenge, each "pile of crap" unceremoniously dumped into our lives, is an opportunity—an opportunity to question, to learn, and most importantly, to evolve. The true question isn't why something happened but how we will respond to it. Will we let it define us, or will we use it as a stepping stone towards becoming our better selves?
Surrendering to Learn
Surrendering doesn't mean giving up; it means opening ourselves to the lessons hidden within our struggles. It means shifting our perspective from "why is this happening to me?" to "what can I learn from this?" This shift is crucial. It moves us from a place of victimhood to a place of empowerment. We start to see our pain, not as a burden, but as a teacher.
Love, Acceptance, and the Path Forward
In my own journey, I've found that acceptance is the key to unlocking the door of possibilities. Acceptance allows us to see our situation not as a series of obstacles but as opportunities for growth, love, and understanding. When we accept, we open ourselves up to the support of the universe, which, in my experience, is always for us, never against us.
The dialogue between acceptance and resistance is a constant one, mirrored in every aspect of our lives. From personal relationships to how we handle life's surprises, like the news of a second child, acceptance opens us to a world of beauty and growth. It teaches us that we are capable, that we are resilient, and most importantly, that we are not alone.
In conclusion, while we may indeed face more than we think we can handle, it's not about the weight of our burdens but how we choose to carry them. It's about growing, not staying stuck. It's about finding love, light, and learning in the darkest of places. And remember, no matter how heavy it gets, you are stronger than you know, and you are always surrounded by love, waiting to be seen.