Updated: Feb 6, 2020
It’s not about being perfect. It’s about being better. Perfection is elusive and in reality, not attainable. Those judging perfection do so within their own bias and perspective. Perfection requires that there are no mistakes visible or invisible. The history must be just right. The subject without blemish. The path straight. The timing impeccable. Everything must be just… perfect.
I am definitely not perfect, but for years I tried to be. Sometimes I still get lost in striving for it. I focus on perfection because I am trying to hide my vulnerabilities and the things in my life I am unhappy about. The things I am embarrassed of. If I can convince myself that I have no issues, maybe you will not see them either. I focus on doing it perfectly because then I am not required to acknowledge my mistakes or struggles. If I “F-Up”, I can just start again and do not need to look at what the struggle is about. It’s easy to start again. It’s not easy to say, I missed it but I’m going to keep on keeping on.
Don’t let anyone fool you. We all miss the mark on a daily basis. Some are just better at hiding it than others. Some are incredibly invested in keeping up the image. I say that we should do the opposite. Take it out from under the rock. Shout your sh*t from the rooftop. When I do not acknowledge my past, (all that I am), I reject the most important relationship I have: The relationship with myself.
Focusing and accepting myself as I am, allows me to embrace who I am. I can be my best and apply my energy into moving forward. Nothing is wasted. No experience is without something positive. This honesty is both freeing and incredibly empowering. It creates space for something new to happen. This is Lifein180.