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  • Writer's pictureKeith Dussia

The Dual Dature Of Abuse. Lessons To Be Learned.

In my journey through life, I've come to understand that living an extraordinary life doesn't necessarily mean achieving grand, world-changing feats. It's about the depth of our connections, the love we share, and the resilience we show in the face of our deepest pains. This journey, my journey, has been about transforming the ordinary into something profoundly meaningful, about becoming a better partner, father and friend. It's a story of vulnerability, of facing my pain head-on instead of shoving it aside, and of the incredible change and transformation that unfolds when we do.



Let me be as clear as I possibly can: It was never your fault. No one ever deserves to be subjected to any form of abuse.
Personal paths has been marked by shadows


My personal path has been marked by shadows, notably the pain and darkness stemming from being abused as a young boy. This experience, as devastating as it was, became a cornerstone of my understanding of life and of myself. It taught me that our past experiences, while they shape us, do not define the entirety of who we are. We are not merely our thoughts, our beliefs, or the roles we play. At our core, we are the observer of these thoughts, the feeler of these feelings—there's a true self that resides behind the smoke and mirrors of our conditioned responses.


LifeIn180, to me, means embracing vulnerability. It means having the courage to love and be loved, to feel pain and work through it, rather than papering over it with distractions. This transformation, I've learned, waits on the other side of readiness. If you're reading this, consider it a nudge from the universe that maybe this message holds something for you too.


There's the violation of the act itself


The dual nature of abuse is something I've come to terms with over the years. There's the violation of the act itself, and then there's the lingering aftermath of shame and guilt—a misplaced belief that we were somehow at fault. Let me be as clear as I possibly can:


"It was never your fault. No one ever deserves to be subjected to any form of abuse."


I've come to see that none of us should carry shame for the things done to us. Being vulnerable, sharing our stories, is like turning on a light in a dark room. It might be startling at first, but it reveals pathways and possibilities previously obscured. My transition from a past dominated by pain, shame, and guilt to a present filled with joy, love, and excitement wasn't instantaneous. It was a journey facilitated by love, which has a unique way of bringing to the surface anything that doesn't resonate with its frequency.


Change, I've found, is the Universe's invitation to move forward. It's the catalyst that prompts us to peel away the layers of hurt and uncover the love that's been waiting beneath all along. The process isn't always comfortable. Our natural inclination towards fear can make us resistant to the very opportunities that encourage our growth. But when the mechanisms we've used to numb our pain stop working, and the pain we've buried starts to surface, it's a sign. It's love, gently but persistently, knocking at our door, offering us a chance to heal, to grow, and to embrace a life aligned with our deepest truths.



The Universe, in its infinite wisdom, is always rooting for us, guiding us towards a life of authenticity and purpose. It assures us that we're never alone, that we possess an inherent worth beyond our wildest comprehension.
The Universe Is Always Rooting For Us


The Universe Is Always Rooting For Us


The Universe, in its infinite wisdom, is always rooting for us, guiding us towards a life of authenticity and purpose. It assures us that we're never alone, that we possess an inherent worth beyond our wildest comprehension.


To anyone reading this, grappling with their shadows, know that you are seen, you are valued, and you are loved—infinitely more than you might believe. My deepest desire is for you to experience, as I have, the transformative power of love—to know, truly know, what it means to love and be loved. This is the essence of LifeIn180, a journey not just of survival, but of thriving. You got this. You are enough!




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